Friday, September 29, 2006
Life was smooth?
Raku thinks I sound religious. I think I m far from religious! I think what he means is philosophical- which may be true. Anyone who is given to thinking, ends up sounding philosophical whether they are or not, whether they like it or not!
Well, now that I have a lot of time on my hands and nothing better to do, you will be subjected to my philisophies. For which purpose the new blog has been created today. And shall be writing to u both, hope u read it. May get boring at times, but do humor an old woman. Make me feel good.
Never been good at expressing my feelings, but I guess i do a better job of penning them. Also, when u were kids, u were so co-operative that i did not get an opportunity or the need to give u any gyan on how/what life is, etc etc.
Life was very smooth for us-dont you think? There were no major issues, problems. Each one was responsible for his actions & enjoyed full freedom to do as he very much pleased. Do you agree? That I think is the secret behind the success that all of us enjoyed! And we all achieved success to the fullest given our capabilities.Calmly & quietly we went about our life without any hue or cry! And one fine day, I look back and see not one but three happy, successful families growing out of the one! Isnt that my good fortune? I always ask God why he gave me so much good fortune, what did i do to deserve it? Havent found the answer yet.
I am sure what he has done for me, he will do for you- you are both Solid Good Hearts and that is the most fundamental value that one can possess. Everything else, success, wealth etc must follow from it. Withou it all the glory in the world is worthless.
So, this is only the start, look out for more on my blog! love.
Well, now that I have a lot of time on my hands and nothing better to do, you will be subjected to my philisophies. For which purpose the new blog has been created today. And shall be writing to u both, hope u read it. May get boring at times, but do humor an old woman. Make me feel good.
Never been good at expressing my feelings, but I guess i do a better job of penning them. Also, when u were kids, u were so co-operative that i did not get an opportunity or the need to give u any gyan on how/what life is, etc etc.
Life was very smooth for us-dont you think? There were no major issues, problems. Each one was responsible for his actions & enjoyed full freedom to do as he very much pleased. Do you agree? That I think is the secret behind the success that all of us enjoyed! And we all achieved success to the fullest given our capabilities.Calmly & quietly we went about our life without any hue or cry! And one fine day, I look back and see not one but three happy, successful families growing out of the one! Isnt that my good fortune? I always ask God why he gave me so much good fortune, what did i do to deserve it? Havent found the answer yet.
I am sure what he has done for me, he will do for you- you are both Solid Good Hearts and that is the most fundamental value that one can possess. Everything else, success, wealth etc must follow from it. Withou it all the glory in the world is worthless.
So, this is only the start, look out for more on my blog! love.
Thursday, September 21, 2006
"GRAND" DAUGHTER
Today we had a guest- our grand daughter! The relationship bet a grand child & grand parents must be experienced to be understood! No words can convey the feelings that we go thru just to have her with us even if it is for a day! It is truly a 'grand' feeling, unique and incomparable to anything else. I think there is the genesis of the nomenclature.
Our whole day revolves around her- what she wants to do, what she wants to eat and how best the few hours that we have can best be utilised!
There are times when I have driven to Chembur to pick her in the morning and driven her back in the evening- nothing is too much or too little where she is concerned!
She is a kid now, but hopefully as she grows she will understand our feelings and one day reciprocate in equal measure! As of now, we are happy with whatever we get!
Our whole day revolves around her- what she wants to do, what she wants to eat and how best the few hours that we have can best be utilised!
There are times when I have driven to Chembur to pick her in the morning and driven her back in the evening- nothing is too much or too little where she is concerned!
She is a kid now, but hopefully as she grows she will understand our feelings and one day reciprocate in equal measure! As of now, we are happy with whatever we get!
Monday, September 18, 2006
When the roots are strong..........
Sure, Sondwala had a very important role to play-said that in my first 'musings'! I think I am terribly blessed to have his support in everything i did!
As I was saying, when the roots are strong, the tree is unshakable, come typhoons or tsunamis. The small little ups and downs of life that might sometimes crop up and shake our beliefs and values (we are only human) may take charge of our emotions for a few hours, days, but soon the roots react and put us back on track!
They attack the downs by blocking the negative feelings and pumping in the saner, more positive thoughts and values, that act as lifeguards when the mind is sinking; and we spring up with a breath of fresh feelings and a sense of victory (over the negative thoughts). This renews our confidence and reaffirms our values! We have learnt the important art of constructive thinking! With each victory we grow stronger until managing negativism becomes an automatic aand ingrained behaviour pattern!
You must remember, this is easier said than done, but a little bit of determination and dont forget the 2 bits of advise- "be Happy, be Good", and all is easy!
So also the ups are to be taken in stride, be happy, celebrate, but in your hearts know that it is the Sondwala's hand. And never forget to thank Him!
As I was saying, when the roots are strong, the tree is unshakable, come typhoons or tsunamis. The small little ups and downs of life that might sometimes crop up and shake our beliefs and values (we are only human) may take charge of our emotions for a few hours, days, but soon the roots react and put us back on track!
They attack the downs by blocking the negative feelings and pumping in the saner, more positive thoughts and values, that act as lifeguards when the mind is sinking; and we spring up with a breath of fresh feelings and a sense of victory (over the negative thoughts). This renews our confidence and reaffirms our values! We have learnt the important art of constructive thinking! With each victory we grow stronger until managing negativism becomes an automatic aand ingrained behaviour pattern!
You must remember, this is easier said than done, but a little bit of determination and dont forget the 2 bits of advise- "be Happy, be Good", and all is easy!
So also the ups are to be taken in stride, be happy, celebrate, but in your hearts know that it is the Sondwala's hand. And never forget to thank Him!
Sunday, September 17, 2006
m2sblog
Independence & Co-operation
My first effort was appreciated with " Great sentiments mom!, You sound like a preacher!"
I'm none of that, just communicating with my kids! Want them to achieve more that what i managed in life, in every field. Some they have already far surpassed us both, others Im sure thay will in good time!
The greatest test of success for a parent is to see their children soar way above them!
Independence & Co-operation
These were the two values that stand out in our relationship( between parents & children) and contributed to the all round growth of both parties; the children on one hand and the parents on the other. Because we are first individuals and then either parent or child!
It is a myth that we as parents always talk bout the growth of our children- we fail to see that we are also growing , nay we must also grow in the process! Only then can the child be proud of his parents and vice versa and only when this happens can the family said to be successful- when all members blossom as individuals, the synergy is fantastic! The family rises to another level altogether- there is enough of everything-as one follows from another, is fuelled by the other!
There is Complete Understanding, (no need for exhibitionism, reiteration of emotions verbally like "I love you, I am proud of you, etc etc); Complete Confidence (If my son has done this, it must be best for us all or if dad did something, he must have good reason); Honesty, Trust, Integrity, Love, Respect, Goodness, Humility, Kindness, Sympathy, these are the roots- & dont even need mention! Without these there is no growth!
And with such growth comes health, wealth, happiness and enjoyment of life without guilt!
How does one achieve this? Its simple- you dont have to be religious or a saint or sadhu!
All you need to do is validate your thoughts against your values and your actions against your thoughts and you cant go wrong!
What is the above, but the Cause and Effect of Independence and Co-operation? We agreed that these two values were strong in our relationship-they seem to contradict each other, but are actually complementary! We gave you the independance and you co-operated with us or was it that you cooperated , hence you got the independence? I would say, it works both wys!
You do your bit and we do ours!
This does not mean that we had no problems, sure we had little skirmishes but certainly no war!
I'm none of that, just communicating with my kids! Want them to achieve more that what i managed in life, in every field. Some they have already far surpassed us both, others Im sure thay will in good time!
The greatest test of success for a parent is to see their children soar way above them!
Independence & Co-operation
These were the two values that stand out in our relationship( between parents & children) and contributed to the all round growth of both parties; the children on one hand and the parents on the other. Because we are first individuals and then either parent or child!
It is a myth that we as parents always talk bout the growth of our children- we fail to see that we are also growing , nay we must also grow in the process! Only then can the child be proud of his parents and vice versa and only when this happens can the family said to be successful- when all members blossom as individuals, the synergy is fantastic! The family rises to another level altogether- there is enough of everything-as one follows from another, is fuelled by the other!
There is Complete Understanding, (no need for exhibitionism, reiteration of emotions verbally like "I love you, I am proud of you, etc etc); Complete Confidence (If my son has done this, it must be best for us all or if dad did something, he must have good reason); Honesty, Trust, Integrity, Love, Respect, Goodness, Humility, Kindness, Sympathy, these are the roots- & dont even need mention! Without these there is no growth!
And with such growth comes health, wealth, happiness and enjoyment of life without guilt!
How does one achieve this? Its simple- you dont have to be religious or a saint or sadhu!
All you need to do is validate your thoughts against your values and your actions against your thoughts and you cant go wrong!
What is the above, but the Cause and Effect of Independence and Co-operation? We agreed that these two values were strong in our relationship-they seem to contradict each other, but are actually complementary! We gave you the independance and you co-operated with us or was it that you cooperated , hence you got the independence? I would say, it works both wys!
You do your bit and we do ours!
This does not mean that we had no problems, sure we had little skirmishes but certainly no war!
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
From a mother to her sons.
At 56 years of age, I have for the first time in life found the time to think and ruminate the life I have sped thru at break-neck speed.
Not that these 56 years went by without thought; but that thought process had a definite purpose; was triggered by a problem that had to be solved, an event that brought joy, sorrow, anger, frustration- or one of such innumerable emotions that come your way on the journey of life.
And I would like to think today, that God gave me the capacity to go thru this process with the requisite objectivity, clarity, sensitivity, magnanimity and realism! Big words these, but I rest my entire life's successes on these attributes which He gave me in however small a measure!
I had my usual share of ups and downs, but came thru them fairly unhurt, a little wiser and a lot humbler!
For all the good that I possess, I can only give credit to the great Lord, my parents (they were abs. wonderful human beings!) and all my elders & teachers!
All the bad that is in me is My Own and I am still struggling to get rid of these, so at the End of the Day, I can say Very Honestly to my Dad- that I have strived to be a Good Person!
My dad died young(52 yrs of age) but he gave me 2 very simple teachings that stuck in my brain- Always be Happy and Smiling and Always Be/Do Good! That is what I tried!
Not that these 56 years went by without thought; but that thought process had a definite purpose; was triggered by a problem that had to be solved, an event that brought joy, sorrow, anger, frustration- or one of such innumerable emotions that come your way on the journey of life.
And I would like to think today, that God gave me the capacity to go thru this process with the requisite objectivity, clarity, sensitivity, magnanimity and realism! Big words these, but I rest my entire life's successes on these attributes which He gave me in however small a measure!
I had my usual share of ups and downs, but came thru them fairly unhurt, a little wiser and a lot humbler!
For all the good that I possess, I can only give credit to the great Lord, my parents (they were abs. wonderful human beings!) and all my elders & teachers!
All the bad that is in me is My Own and I am still struggling to get rid of these, so at the End of the Day, I can say Very Honestly to my Dad- that I have strived to be a Good Person!
My dad died young(52 yrs of age) but he gave me 2 very simple teachings that stuck in my brain- Always be Happy and Smiling and Always Be/Do Good! That is what I tried!
